how to really #GetAtHome in this world

Dabble 100%

The worst kind of advice you can get when you feel an interest in something: You can never be the best at it, never make a living from it, so just forget about it.

Chances are, if you really are interested, you will still not let it go completely. You will try it, but not gain much from it, always thinking that the warning voices were probably right and you are wasting your time.

But if you completely let it be, you will most certainly regret it. We typically regret the things we wanted to do, but then didn’t do, not the ones that turned out less well than we thought, but at least gave a shot.

The deepest problem, however, is not even that.

It is not trying and failing, nor not trying and regretting.

It is that nothing much will come out of a half-assed attempt at maybe doing something – and that has become a very common approach to things.

In school already, many students try getting parents or teachers to do the work for them, claiming they don’t understand before ever really having tried.
Men, it often seems, love to use the same approach with their girlfriend or wife, acting so bad at cooking or cleaning that the women will rather do it themselves… and women may limit themselves in pretty much the same way if they act as if it were utterly impossible for them to learn to fix an appliance or a car.

Sure, if you just want to do something so you can check it off your “been there, done that” bucket list, then fine. Do that. Try it, do it, just so you can say you tried and it didn’t work, or you did it and it wasn’t so great and now that’s that.

But if you really want to have the life-changing experience, the knowledge that turns from a few factoids and the sense of knowing into true expertise, the chance at developing a skill that is new to you and an interesting contribution for your life, then you need to try things out, to dabble – but with a 100% commitment.

iPad Photography vs Painting in Venice

Who do you think will have the deeper memory, the iPad snapshot-taker or the painter…? – Question from an earlier post already…

With fun and commitment, and with focus and attention, the – sorry, but I liked the movie in spite of serious defectsNZT of real life.

If you don’t dabble, you will never learn anything new.
Nobody can start at anything with perfection, after all; and you can’t know what (or if anything) will come of something new before you have gone far with it.
So you must do, and try.

If all you do is dabble, here and there and everywhere, without commitment, however, you won’t be going far with it.
You will need to give what you are doing, when you are doing it, your full attention.
No half-assery.

If you can only invest an hour a week, then at least focus on the skill you are working on during that hour.

More likely than not, though, even if you want and need to balance the demands of work and personal life as well, there is time spent “relaxing” with social media or TV or both that you could, if only you got serious about the thing(s) you wanted to learn and approached the dabbling with focus and commitment, invest in that learning and practice instead.

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